How To Be Miserable


I know this is going to sound weird, but my life got a lot easier when I learned how to be miserable. 

Let me explain. 

You see, as over-dramatic, emotional, sensitive artists, we can tend to feel like shit from time to time. 

And then because we feel like shit, we get upset about it and feel even more like shit. 

But what if you embraced the misery? At least a little of it. See the pain as a slight tincture for your character and your work. 

Stop expecting to feel amazing all the time. Allow the misery to stay beside you. Embrace it as a part of life and a part of your creative process. 

Expect it. 

When the dread for the project/the book/the business trickles in, don't run away from it. Sink it in. Get it out of the way. 

Yes, being consistent is hard. Showing up sucks. You want to give up. Blah. Blah. Blah. 

Don't expect the misery to go away. Did you really think this was going to be fun the whole time?

You must be new to this. 

As Steven Pressfield says, working with your misery is just part of being an artist. What do you think art is here for to begin with? It's a tool to navigate pain and agony with.  

“If my art has nothing to do with people’s pain and sorrow, what is ‘art’ for?”
— Contemorary Artist, Ai Weiwei

Frida Kahlo painted through her pain, after her tragic trolley accident. She was literally creating masterpieces in an old fashioned body cast on her bed.

“Don’t build a wall around your suffering or it may devour you from the inside.”
— Frida Kahlo